Marriage in Rush
June 11, 2006
SAVE THE WORLD FROM “OQBA” Type husbands
This is not a story or a tale. I am going to share a nightmare of a young bright 21year old girl. Who was married to a person selected by her parents with all the fine dreams in her eyes. This is a painful experience that my family friends had to go through and I have experienced equally throbbing emotions while I shared their sorrow.
My uncle’s family is based in UAE for more than 30 years, they were a very happy, & well off family with two girls and two sons. I have always seen these two sisters laughing, enjoying and having fun. I have always seen them respecting elders, serving guests and well behaved. My aunt wanted to marry them with good self-reliant boy with a good family background, just like any common mother. I don’t think that their expectations were too high or too low.
One fine day one of the close relative from KSA had suggested a boy who was working with Saudi Arabia IBM ARAMCO in IT called Oqba and settled in Dammam. Oqba & his family (basically from Lukhnow, India) were on visit in Dubai and they met my uncle’s family here. My uncle had a good impression about Ukba & his family as they were appearing very religious Muslim family and my uncle thought all true Muslims has to be good human being. Oqba father right books in KSA. When they saw my uncle’s younger girl S, they were so flattered and started insisting marrying her immediately. They gave 100 reasons to do Nikhah (marriage) immediately and ruksati(departure after marriage) after couple of months. Oqba’s family emotionally trapped my uncle and aunt by giving emotional reasons such as Oqba’s elder brother died and his mother wanted to see the marriage so desperately that they cannot wait.
My uncle did a crime by not enquiring anything about this family just one reference from a relative who knew them socially not personally. 28-jun-2004, Nikhah was performed on mutual trust, faith and harmony. After Nikhah the family went back after that S was in UAE for rukhsati and for proper ceremony,14-jan-2005,rukhsati was held in and then she left for KSA too. They did not go for honeymoon, as the family promised to take her to Maldives, but failed to do so, instead took her to Jeddah to his sister’s place along with his mother and father. Where she started her slavery punishment of marrying Oqbah.
When I saw S after her marriage couple of times, I could see that she was hiding something but that innocent girl never shared what she was going through. She became pregnant and sent to UAE for delivery. She delivered a baby and OQBAH came here just for a day or two & he left without any notice to my uncle. My aunty thought may be some little fight between husband and wife. And they did not notice the rift. Oqba did not turn up to take S back to KSA. He ignored repeated calls from S and my uncle to take her back. At last my uncle went to drop S with the baby. I don’t know what happened after that.
Two months back my aunty received a call from KSA saying that S is in a terrible condition and parents MUST reach KSA ASAP.
My uncle and aunt reached there in no time with all the difficulties and visa hassles. S was in a very panic and emotionally drained condition, she was tortured and beaten up by the entire family repeatedly, time & again for no reasons. She was kept in house arrest for months, with food or without food she was treated inhuman by husband oqba, father in law, mother in law, sister in-laws & their husbands was even banned to feed her own child and Oqbah’s family made their daughter to breast feed S child. She was not allowed to talk to anyone in the neighborhood so that people will know her condition. She was forced to work day and Night with a small newborn baby; she was sexually abused by her husband, mentally and physically tortured for months. She had tolerated and tried her level best to keep her wedding going. When my aunt was not able to contact her she called the relatives who had suggested this family for a wedding. She visited Oqba’s house and met with S and saw her shivering with fear, she rescued S from that man made prison, may be prisons are much better than that home. S was in very throbbing condition.
My uncle went to Indian Embassy for rescue and help. Indian Embassy suggested to do patch up. But S was quite not ready to get back to that hell again. My uncle and aunt have not dreamt of that they will see their daughter in such a condition. If I had been in their place I would have killed that man who had almost killed an innocent girl. Time was passing very slowly during all the proceedings at Indian Embassy. My uncle family wanted to file police case but Indian Embassy suggested not doing so & trying some discussion and reconciliation.
Indian Embassy caused too much delay in sorting out the matter. Finally divorce papers were prepared and S was going to sign the papers. Just before she could sign the papers my uncle left the room to attend the phone call and Oqba asked S to talk for 15 minutes. GOD know what he said in those few minutes that S agreed to give Oqba one more chance to maintain her wedding for the sake of baby and her future.
Agreement was signed that Oqba will lift the ban from her passport, which he never did. In-laws family was given warning not to interfere in personal matters of husband and wife and the whole issue was rounded up.
My uncle was so innocent that he kept living there to make sure that everything is okay. Oqba apologized and assured that he will try to prove himself as a good husband and a father.
BUT he was plotting murder. He lodged complaint in police that S is mentally sick and tried to commit suicide, which she never did. Oqba & family were planning to kill her and declare that she has committed suicide. It was not very difficult for them as there was no police complaint against them in police station becoz Indian Embassy advised my uncle not to lodge complaint to solve the matter. My uncle family was misguided by Indian embassy in KSA. I blame them equally for this injustice.
My uncle and aunt came back to UAE with so many doubts and inhibitions about the whole event. Aunt used to call S and she used to manage to get her on phone once in 10 times, things were moving. Many times Oqba use to say S is busy, in toilet, outside etc,etc etc. Last month end my uncle received a call from KSA police station that S was brutally beaten up by her husband and her sister-in-laws on the road and CID inspector in civil uniform rescued her. My uncle flew to KSA immediately. He saw S in a very dreadful condition. She was beaten up with so brutality, she had marks on all over her body. Her eyes were swollen; KSA police was very kind and nice in this whole event that really came as an angle to save S from Evil OQBA & his family.
Case was fought for and divorce proceeding started. My uncle was so disturbed; S was not in her real self while court proceedings were going on. S wanted to come to UAE as soon as possible. When it was time to decide maintenance for the child my uncle and S both did not even notice what was the amount put on the papers as the proceedings were in Arabic and when they saw it was awful amount of dirham 200 per month. One cannot even buy pampers with that amount. Uncle was so afraid for S and wanted to leave KSA. S passport was still with OQBA which he was not ready to give and he said if you will file any police case I will not give u passport. Oqba had put ban on S entry and exit from KSA.
My uncle wanted to file criminal case against Oqba and family but there were visa hassles for him and S was not in a mental condition to stay they’re alone for 2-3 or even months until the case is finalized.
Uncle left KSA with LIVE S. She came here and thought she was lucky that she could manage to leave Oqba house. S was so much in panic and imbalanced that she wanted to run away from KSA.
Today she is not same S what I used to see her two-year back. She has received emotional scars and tremendous humiliation from Oqba, her sisters and mother. S shared each and every thing with me and I wanted to share with the whole world that people like Oqba, his mother & sisters have no right to live in a civil society.
When I asked S the reason for all the fights she said that they wanted a free maid. Oqba was in love with one Pakistani girl for four years and he was engaged for one year. The engagement broke for the reasons that she does not know. The neighbor told this fact to her. Oqba married S for his family sake. He never wanted to go for honeymoon. He never loved S. his parents were so insecure that they never allowed Oqba to go out with S alone. His sisters and mother use to go out with Oqba and S used to be at home, S was suppose to cook food when they are back, clean house, take care of baby, ready for each and every thing without any reaction or complaint. Oqba and his family fired their housemaid and treated S like one. S did everything for her marriage but when she wanted to meet with her mother and asked to visit UAE her own home, she was told that she will have to break all the ties with her family. And if she want to go to UAE , she will go with Divorce.
It seems as if Oqba was a psychopath. He used to beat S with such a cruelty, and after beating her he used to scream on her ears like a crazy mad man. S used to call everyone for help but all the members of the family used to stand and provoke Oqba to beat her more. They all wanted a rubber-maid who was not suppose to talk, who should not complain & just work day and night. S found out that Oqba was chasing that Pakistani girl as she saw one email where it was clearing mentioned that “stop following me becz u r married now.” S noticed that Oqba had physical relationship out of marriage as well. She did not even ask him becz she was afraid that he would beat her again. She knew that her passport was with him and if they wished they could kill her easily.
S did each and every thing to make her wedding successful but this family where she was married is not made of human beings but shaitans. These people are sick people.
I appeal to the court of law to bring these inhuman people to justice. They should be punished for the torture and inhuman treatment that has killed S one thousand times in a day. Oqba sisters used to tell her that her father has done a mistake by marrying S with Oqba and he will have to pay for it. S seeks justice to put Oqba, his mother, sisters and father behind the bars. Oqba father used to abuse her with such a bad and nasty language that no one can use for a girl, forget daughter-in-law.
S needs justice. We don’t know which law will help her, UAE or Indian or human rights? It’s not just S but soon Oqba will marry another girl and may be that girl is not that lucky who can come live from that prison. Or may he may get one slave wife. Who may not be able to voice her pain? But I am sure if we are able to bring this mentally sick family to the justice and punish for the inhuman treatment, society will be aware of the real face of this family.
We can save another S. no one can undo what has been happened to S, but we can help S to feel better treated by punishing those people who has given her deep rooted scars that cannot be treated with any kind of worldly treatment. Oqbah’s family is also a threat and disgrace to the religion, as such people pretend to be religious and fool many people by their fake personality and in the end bring disgrace to the religion. Only God can help her to forget that torture. If we are not able to give S justice she may live with a feeling of being used and thrown by Oqba family who has used certain laws in KSA for their own good.
Please help S to punish this vulture family who are hiding in Dammam. Please stand an example for rest of other OQBA’s not to mal treat their wives.
SAVE THE WORLD FROM “OQBA” Type husbands
SAVE THE WORLD FROM “OQBA” Type husbands
This is not a story or a tale. I am going to share a nightmare of a young bright 21year old girl. Who was married to a person selected by her parents with all the fine dreams in her eyes. This is a painful experience that my family friends had to go through and I have experienced equally throbbing emotions while I shared their sorrow.
My uncle’s family is based in UAE for more than 30 years, they were a very happy, & well off family with two girls and two sons. I have always seen these two sisters laughing, enjoying and having fun. I have always seen them respecting elders, serving guests and well behaved. My aunt wanted to marry them with good self-reliant boy with a good family background, just like any common mother. I don’t think that their expectations were too high or too low.
One fine day one of the close relative from KSA had suggested a boy who was working with Saudi Arabia IBM ARAMCO in IT called Oqba and settled in Dammam. Oqba & his family (basically from Lukhnow, India) were on visit in Dubai and they met my uncle’s family here. My uncle had a good impression about Ukba & his family as they were appearing very religious Muslim family and my uncle thought all true Muslims has to be good human being. Oqba father right books in KSA. When they saw my uncle’s younger girl S, they were so flattered and started insisting marrying her immediately. They gave 100 reasons to do Nikhah (marriage) immediately and ruksati(departure after marriage) after couple of months. Oqba’s family emotionally trapped my uncle and aunt by giving emotional reasons such as Oqba’s elder brother died and his mother wanted to see the marriage so desperately that they cannot wait.
My uncle did a crime by not enquiring anything about this family just one reference from a relative who knew them socially not personally. 28-jun-2004, Nikhah was performed on mutual trust, faith and harmony. After Nikhah the family went back after that S was in UAE for rukhsati and for proper ceremony,14-jan-2005,rukhsati was held in and then she left for KSA too. They did not go for honeymoon, as the family promised to take her to Maldives, but failed to do so, instead took her to Jeddah to his sister’s place along with his mother and father. Where she started her slavery punishment of marrying Oqbah.
When I saw S after her marriage couple of times, I could see that she was hiding something but that innocent girl never shared what she was going through. She became pregnant and sent to UAE for delivery. She delivered a baby and OQBAH came here just for a day or two & he left without any notice to my uncle. My aunty thought may be some little fight between husband and wife. And they did not notice the rift. Oqba did not turn up to take S back to KSA. He ignored repeated calls from S and my uncle to take her back. At last my uncle went to drop S with the baby. I don’t know what happened after that.
Two months back my aunty received a call from KSA saying that S is in a terrible condition and parents MUST reach KSA ASAP.
My uncle and aunt reached there in no time with all the difficulties and visa hassles. S was in a very panic and emotionally drained condition, she was tortured and beaten up by the entire family repeatedly, time & again for no reasons. She was kept in house arrest for months, with food or without food she was treated inhuman by husband oqba, father in law, mother in law, sister in-laws & their husbands was even banned to feed her own child and Oqbah’s family made their daughter to breast feed S child. She was not allowed to talk to anyone in the neighborhood so that people will know her condition. She was forced to work day and Night with a small newborn baby; she was sexually abused by her husband, mentally and physically tortured for months. She had tolerated and tried her level best to keep her wedding going. When my aunt was not able to contact her she called the relatives who had suggested this family for a wedding. She visited Oqba’s house and met with S and saw her shivering with fear, she rescued S from that man made prison, may be prisons are much better than that home. S was in very throbbing condition.
My uncle went to Indian Embassy for rescue and help. Indian Embassy suggested to do patch up. But S was quite not ready to get back to that hell again. My uncle and aunt have not dreamt of that they will see their daughter in such a condition. If I had been in their place I would have killed that man who had almost killed an innocent girl. Time was passing very slowly during all the proceedings at Indian Embassy. My uncle family wanted to file police case but Indian Embassy suggested not doing so & trying some discussion and reconciliation.
Indian Embassy caused too much delay in sorting out the matter. Finally divorce papers were prepared and S was going to sign the papers. Just before she could sign the papers my uncle left the room to attend the phone call and Oqba asked S to talk for 15 minutes. GOD know what he said in those few minutes that S agreed to give Oqba one more chance to maintain her wedding for the sake of baby and her future.
Agreement was signed that Oqba will lift the ban from her passport, which he never did. In-laws family was given warning not to interfere in personal matters of husband and wife and the whole issue was rounded up.
My uncle was so innocent that he kept living there to make sure that everything is okay. Oqba apologized and assured that he will try to prove himself as a good husband and a father.
BUT he was plotting murder. He lodged complaint in police that S is mentally sick and tried to commit suicide, which she never did. Oqba & family were planning to kill her and declare that she has committed suicide. It was not very difficult for them as there was no police complaint against them in police station becoz Indian Embassy advised my uncle not to lodge complaint to solve the matter. My uncle family was misguided by Indian embassy in KSA. I blame them equally for this injustice.
My uncle and aunt came back to UAE with so many doubts and inhibitions about the whole event. Aunt used to call S and she used to manage to get her on phone once in 10 times, things were moving. Many times Oqba use to say S is busy, in toilet, outside etc,etc etc. Last month end my uncle received a call from KSA police station that S was brutally beaten up by her husband and her sister-in-laws on the road and CID inspector in civil uniform rescued her. My uncle flew to KSA immediately. He saw S in a very dreadful condition. She was beaten up with so brutality, she had marks on all over her body. Her eyes were swollen; KSA police was very kind and nice in this whole event that really came as an angle to save S from Evil OQBA & his family.
Case was fought for and divorce proceeding started. My uncle was so disturbed; S was not in her real self while court proceedings were going on. S wanted to come to UAE as soon as possible. When it was time to decide maintenance for the child my uncle and S both did not even notice what was the amount put on the papers as the proceedings were in Arabic and when they saw it was awful amount of dirham 200 per month. One cannot even buy pampers with that amount. Uncle was so afraid for S and wanted to leave KSA. S passport was still with OQBA which he was not ready to give and he said if you will file any police case I will not give u passport. Oqba had put ban on S entry and exit from KSA.
My uncle wanted to file criminal case against Oqba and family but there were visa hassles for him and S was not in a mental condition to stay they’re alone for 2-3 or even months until the case is finalized.
Uncle left KSA with LIVE S. She came here and thought she was lucky that she could manage to leave Oqba house. S was so much in panic and imbalanced that she wanted to run away from KSA.
Today she is not same S what I used to see her two-year back. She has received emotional scars and tremendous humiliation from Oqba, her sisters and mother. S shared each and every thing with me and I wanted to share with the whole world that people like Oqba, his mother & sisters have no right to live in a civil society.
When I asked S the reason for all the fights she said that they wanted a free maid. Oqba was in love with one Pakistani girl for four years and he was engaged for one year. The engagement broke for the reasons that she does not know. The neighbor told this fact to her. Oqba married S for his family sake. He never wanted to go for honeymoon. He never loved S. his parents were so insecure that they never allowed Oqba to go out with S alone. His sisters and mother use to go out with Oqba and S used to be at home, S was suppose to cook food when they are back, clean house, take care of baby, ready for each and every thing without any reaction or complaint. Oqba and his family fired their housemaid and treated S like one. S did everything for her marriage but when she wanted to meet with her mother and asked to visit UAE her own home, she was told that she will have to break all the ties with her family. And if she want to go to UAE , she will go with Divorce.
It seems as if Oqba was a psychopath. He used to beat S with such a cruelty, and after beating her he used to scream on her ears like a crazy mad man. S used to call everyone for help but all the members of the family used to stand and provoke Oqba to beat her more. They all wanted a rubber-maid who was not suppose to talk, who should not complain & just work day and night. S found out that Oqba was chasing that Pakistani girl as she saw one email where it was clearing mentioned that “stop following me becz u r married now.” S noticed that Oqba had physical relationship out of marriage as well. She did not even ask him becz she was afraid that he would beat her again. She knew that her passport was with him and if they wished they could kill her easily.
S did each and every thing to make her wedding successful but this family where she was married is not made of human beings but shaitans. These people are sick people.
I appeal to the court of law to bring these inhuman people to justice. They should be punished for the torture and inhuman treatment that has killed S one thousand times in a day. Oqba sisters used to tell her that her father has done a mistake by marrying S with Oqba and he will have to pay for it. S seeks justice to put Oqba, his mother, sisters and father behind the bars. Oqba father used to abuse her with such a bad and nasty language that no one can use for a girl, forget daughter-in-law.
S needs justice. We don’t know which law will help her, UAE or Indian or human rights? It’s not just S but soon Oqba will marry another girl and may be that girl is not that lucky who can come live from that prison. Or may he may get one slave wife. Who may not be able to voice her pain? But I am sure if we are able to bring this mentally sick family to the justice and punish for the inhuman treatment, society will be aware of the real face of this family.
We can save another S. no one can undo what has been happened to S, but we can help S to feel better treated by punishing those people who has given her deep rooted scars that cannot be treated with any kind of worldly treatment. Oqbah’s family is also a threat and disgrace to the religion, as such people pretend to be religious and fool many people by their fake personality and in the end bring disgrace to the religion. Only God can help her to forget that torture. If we are not able to give S justice she may live with a feeling of being used and thrown by Oqba family who has used certain laws in KSA for their own good.
Please help S to punish this vulture family who are hiding in Dammam. Please stand an example for rest of other OQBA’s not to mal treat their wives.
SAVE THE WORLD FROM “OQBA” Type husbands
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